What type of manager are you?
You have an impossible job right now.
You're overwhelmed but don't want to seem incompetent. When you do reach out for help you get basic training that doesn't relate to your team. Even though you have some great ideas for implementing change, you need a solid foundation right now.
Creativity and solutions are your specialty but they're not always welcome or encouraged. You've tried everything from going with the status quo to speaking up and becoming an advocate- nothing is working.
On top of that, you don't have role models who look like you or share your experiences. But I know what it's really like in that meeting. I know the pressure you feel but can't say out loud.
Some days it becomes too much. You thought this was your dream, your goal... but now you're full of doubt.
There are glimmers of hope. Some women seem to be pulling off this corporate thing, but HOW? How do they manage the expectations at home and work without going crazy? How do they keep from second guessing themselves? Do THEY ever cry in their car before even leaving the parking lot? (Yes, they do.)
You envision yourself leading a large team of people and you love the hustle. You LOVE to work. But not this work. Not this way.
You want your confidence back. You want your identity back. You want freedom to be creative in your problem-solving and you want to know you're trusted to make good decisions. You want to know your boss and your company have your back, just like you have theirs.
You imagine leading a team of excellent employees. They trust you. They work hard. They get results.
And you're there with them every step of the way. It's just like the pictures in those corporate management trainings, but even better.
Because the smiles on your team's faces are REAL. And reality means sometimes there are no smiles. Sometimes it's late nights and screw ups and last minute customer requests and emails sent without the attachment (again!), but that's something you accept, and they accept, and it makes you stronger.
You love it because you've got a fabulous team. You leave work feeling fulfilled. You know you worked hard and it was noticed, appreciated. Your contribution meant something.
You feel valued.
It really is possible. You don't have to let go of this dream, because your current reality doesn't have to dictate your entire career trajectory.
You can change things now.
It's time to get off that hamster wheel. You've built up momentum and it's very difficult to stop at this point- stop stressing, stop checking email, stop doubting yourself, stop putting out fires, stop playing catch up.
Stop being busy yet feeling unfulfilled.
Maybe that means changing jobs. Maybe it means gaining new skills or changing your viewpoint. Maybe it means re-evaluating your goals.
Making that change is difficult to do without support from someone who can help you see your situation objectively.
You need someone who has YOUR best interest in mind. Someone who understands what it's like to be driven, self-motivated... and currently deflated.
I have a doctorate in clinical psychology and I also have experience as a manager, a director and a corporate employee. I know your position and how it affects you, and I've been trained in the tools it takes to come out on top. I can help you sift through the current corporate mess you're experiencing and identify what pieces to clean up and what pieces to toss away.
I find these three categories usually provide a clear direction for where to go...
This is often the first answer people think of when dissatisfied with their current job, and they may be right. However, it's important you have a clear idea of why a position may not be working for you prior to making a switch. After all, what good is a new job if you end up navigating the same pitfalls, or disappointed to have left a company you believed in?
Gain New Skills
Sometimes people are "failing" in their current position simply due to lack of training. This is particularly true of new managers, who often receive very little or even no training and are expected to adapt to a management role simply because they were a good worker bee.
Gain a New Point of View
My last category is a less-commonly explored idea. Perhaps you are in the right position and have adequate skills but simply do not have the outlook necessary to succeed. While this is initially more difficult to work through than the other problems, doing some internal work around this issue can reap great rewards for both the employee and the company.